SEPTEMBER 28, 2005 - 9:OO A.M.

by Virginia McCullough

The National Crime Victimization Survey for the year 2000 report states that almost 700,000 domestic violence incidents between partners were reported nationwide and many thousands more go unreported each year.  In the five years that have passed since that report domestic violence has increased dramatically in spite of federal, state and local agencies' efforts to curtail such occurrences.

Each and every time love turns to hate and hate results in verbal, emotional, or physical abuse, society's thread shreds. When violence tears apart a family the children suffer and their lives are forever changed.  All too often the family dissolves and the children become bartering chips that parents use to batter each other.  Angry divorces and bitter custody battles are frequently resolved in Family Law Courts across this nation that protect the abuser and reward the perpetuator by placing emotionally raped children in that person's custody.  Family law courts have become a billion dollar industry employing a wide variety of professional and non-professional people whose very livelihood depends on the escalating conflicts within families.

It is, therefore, that on September 28, 2005 a nationwide day of demonstration will be held in front of courthouses all across the United States to kick off the Domestic Violence Awareness Month of October.

The Marin County Civic Center, the site of many past demonstrations targeting the corruption in its Family Law Courts, will be the location for Bay Area's silent, peaceful demonstration from 9:00 a.m. until 12:00 p.m on September 28, 2005.  Many protective parents have been jailed by the judges in this courthouse because they were trying to protect their children from an abusive spouse or abusive parent.

Attending to protest the irreparable damage inflicted on their lives and the lives of their children by domestic violence and the Family Law Courts, will be mothers Valerie Nixon, Kelli Hill (Nunez) and Jonea Rogers.  These women and many others endured domestic violence, the refusal of law enforcement to properly protect them and their children, the exploitation of their situation by judges and lawyers in the court system and ultimately the forced separation from their children under threat of jail by court order.  Their lives and their children's lives will never be the same.

To better understand the impact of domestic violence on the lives of children one is urged to read A Private Family Matter by football star and movie actor Victor Rivas Rivers.  A moving, compassionate account of his life with an extremely abusive father recounts Rivers' memories of growing up under the machismo thumb of his Cuban father and how his mother, siblings and he endured living through the years of anger and abuse to survive with a renewed bond and strength and love that broke the legacy of domestic violence.  Rivers became the first male spokesman for the campaign against domestic violence and his straight forward eloquent voice should be heard by all.

During October, television offers a powerful new documentary entitled Breaking the Silence: Children's Stories that chronicles the impact of domestic violence on children.  Jeff, featured in the film, was forced by the court system to live with his abusive father and restricted from seeing his mother.  He is now a member of The Courageous Kids Network, a growing group of young people in similar situations, who are speaking out about biased and unjust court rulings in family custody cases.  You are urged to watch your local broadcasts at: (Click.The national broadcast of this show will take place on or about October 20th, 2005.

Remember that judges in each and every courthouse across this nation have made rulings that have wrenched a child from his/her parent's arms and, in so doing, severed that child from one half of his/her heritage often citing domestic violence as the reason.  Punishing a child for domestic abuse only proves that society has utterly failed to deal with the problem.

Virginia McCullough © 9/26/05


The local gathering is in front of the Marin Civic Center on Wed Sept 28th 9am-noon, with everyone to be 
at the entrance near the jail by 8:45am.

Breaking the Silence: Children's Stories is a powerful new documentary that chronicles the impact of domestic violence on children. 
Jeff was forced by the court system to live with his abusive father and restricted from seeing his mother. He is now a member of 
The Courageous Kids Network, a growing group of young people in similar situations, who are speaking out about biased and unjust 
court rulings in family custody cases.  Please watch your local broadcast at:

KVIE Sacramento Channel 6 Wed- Oct 19th -8:00pm
(Children Next Door-related film Wed- Oct 19th -7:30pm) Thurs- Oct 20th -4:00pm Fri- Oct 21st -1:30am, 4:30am KQED San Francisco Channel 9 Thu- Oct 20th -11:00 pm
KQED Encore Fri- Oct 21st -2:00 am, 6:00 am, 10:00 am, 2:00 pm, 6:00 pm, 10:00 pm Sun- Oct 23rd -5:00 am KQED World Sun- Oct 23rd -6:00 pm
KQED HD Thu- Oct 20th -11:00 pm Tue- Oct 25th -10:00 pm
KVPT Fresno Channel 18 Thurs- October 20th -10 p.m *KVPT Manager Jerry Lee: We will have a telephone outreach at the same time, with abuse professionals manning a phone bank to answer viewers questions and provide resource information pertaining to abuse. 1-800-801-6500 Co-produced by Tatge/Lasseur Productions & CT Public Television. Photo credit: Donald Elliott
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